Monday, March 4, 2013

The end


"When you love someone, it's never over. You move on because you have to, but you bring him in your heart."
-Elizabeth Chandler, Kissed by an Angel


It is very sad when couples part ways. I've never been in a romantic relationship, I am well aware of that so I don't have the slightest authority to speak for this, but I do think that if former lovers are to break up, at the very least they should separate as friends. Which I know is tough. But in the spirit of days and moments they exchanged words of forever, I think they should try. 

Break-ups make me feel sad on few points. For one, it's harder when you're friends with both, or even one . I know there are no words of comfort that would ease the pain, even anger for some, but then again you try. Or you stay there at the back, make them feel that in this moment of fall, they're not alone.

Hearing stories of break-ups throws me in deep thoughts. Sometimes I would conclude if getting in a relationship for these amazing people is already a tough job, then no wonder it's been always hell for me. Or sometimes I wonder if they really loved each other. And once a person decided to call it quits, how can he/she be so sure? Is there really an end to love? 

My friends are seriously egging me to date lately; others despite my stern warning would even dare introduce me to some. I've explained this a lot like saying I don't really have the time and that my life situation is very complicated or that I already have my eyes set on someone special and I'm just waiting for things to clear up. Which are all partly true. But honestly, sometimes I suspect these are all but my excuses. 

I'm afraid to admit that I'm afraid of relaxing my walls once more, let other people delve into my fragile domain. It is hard when you've come so far conquering depression and I don't think no one should fault me for being protective of myself. And then you encounter these goodbyes. 

In the midst of a friend breaking news of her breakup, another told me "at least you're spared of that kind of pain." "You're luckier," that friend added. I did not respond to it instantly, but I knew that I have to disagree. 

It is true that nothing lasts forever, and probably even love. But at the very core of our psyche, I know we are all trying to. Or maybe just to survive. I think that despite people parting ways, its the good times, and yes, even the bad moments that were shared are all that matters. Maybe the pain is all worth it. And that makes them way luckier. Because they get to experience that whereas most of us can only imagine or dream of those highs and lows.

I humbly believe that it's not really the love we get that counts, but the the amount we are willing to give especially to those who are least deserving. That's very poetic isn't it? The same thing about talking about break-ups. Or talking to that person who broke-up with you. But like a sad poem, I imagine it will end well. It well echo for some time, yes, but maybe a lot better. And who knows? The next one could be just as good or better than you can hope for. 

9 reaction(s):

rudeboy said...

I've said it once, I'll say it again: "Love is the only gamble worth taking."

Only appliances come with warranties.

Senyor Iskwater said...

hhhmmm... I agree sa lahat ng points na iyong nabanggit... hayyyy... mas pressured pa ang iba sa singlehood natin... ang hirap naman sumugal...


enweis, I think we can be happy naman without anyone... without a partner... how long? nahala na si batman...

yccos said...

Recovering from a break up is tough job. Even if we try to be optimistic about the next one to come, there will still this tinge of doubt and fear that we will get hurt all over again.

. said...

It is worth the try DB. Even when there are no assurances of forever.

:)

Guyrony said...

If you feel it's time, then it's time. Never let people pressure you into something you are not ready yet.

Risk.

Live.

Hope.

Zion said...

The only way to be truly happy is to be vulnerable, and the only way to do that is to love and let yourself be loved.

Sa TED talk ko toh napulot..hahaha

Zei Maya said...

THE GOOD THING WITH BREAK UP'S IS THE LESSONS WE LEARNED AND THE OPPORTUNITY TO FIND THE RIGHT PERSON NA NAKALAAN TALAGA SA ATIN...

THE BAD THING IS WHEN YOU SHUT YOUR SELF AND SCARED TO GIVE LOVE ANOTHER TRY... THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS FOREVER... BUT LOVE STAY'S FOREVER KAHIT PA KUMUPAS TO SA YUNG NAKARAAN NA RELATIONSHIP.. LOVE STAYS .. IT JUST WAITING FOR YOU TO GIVE LOVE ANOTHER TRY. :)

Knoxxy said...

It's all about taking a risk. I would rather take that leap and fall then nit to take it at all. no regrets.

KikomaxXx said...

sana wala nalang talagang break-ups... we should learn to accept the one we choose...

 

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